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I am so tired of reading these things.
Wow… now black people are being shot while going to white people’s houses as part of their JOBS.
(Source: lodubimvloyaar, via brynndragon)
Polyamorous =/= slut
Polyamorous =/= excuse to act like a slut
Polyamorous =/= open relationship
Polyamorous =/= having sex with as many people as possible
Oh gods, are we having yet another round of poly slut-shaming? Is this because y’all are so distressed about trying to explain how your life works to your families during the holidays or something? Goddamn it people, stop the sex policing already.
Can’t help but think of Audre Lorde’s “The Master’s Tools Will Never Dismantle the Master’s House”: “Advocating the mere tolerance of difference between women is the grossest reformism.It is a total denial of the creative function of difference in our lives. Difference must be not merely tolerated, but seen as a fund of necessary polarities between which our creativity can spark like a dialectic. Only then does the necessity for interdependency become unthreatening.” (You can read the whole essay here, or check out Sister Outsider, which is well worth reading!)
Obviously in this case the OP isn’t even interested in tolerating those who do things differently, but I figured I’d throw that out there anyway. When people in oppressed/minority/marginalized groups say things like “well, yes, I’m [insert category here], but at least I’m not like [THOSE TERRIBLE PEOPLE OVER THERE],” that’s effectively doing “the master’s” work for them. Odds are pretty good that saying “yes, I’m poly, but I’m so much better than those slutty sluts who slut around!” is not actually going to make the world safer for poly people, even if you get to decide who’s “actually” poly and who’s just a slut. (I’m thinking on lines similar to those who criticize respectability politics when it comes to race.)
Basically, though, what brynndragon said: stop the sex policing already!